The last few days have been pretty emotional for me. On Wednesday, my ex-husband and I met at Family Court for Mediation. Just before we were called in for our appointment, my boyfriend sent me a text from the airport. He should have been boarding a plane to San Diego, but instead, he was in line trying to get on another flight since his had been canceled. I felt helpless in so many ways.
It was a bittersweet experience for me when, less than an hour later, my son’s father and I came to an agreement regarding custody of our nearly 6-year-old son. It was such a relief knowing that our arrangement was something that we could come to a mutual decision on and not something that the judge had to order.
I have had clients in the past and current clients who are dealing with the challenges of co-parenting and maneuvering through the court system. My ex and I do a pretty good job modeling a successful co-parenting relationship, although we’re far from perfect. We have worked very hard to get to where we are now.
Right after leaving court, I had to pick up my son from school and explain the change of plans to him: my boyfriend would now fly in the next day and he wouldn’t see him that night, after all. My son started crying, which I did not expect, and I tried so hard not to cry as well. We had both been counting down the days until Mr. Right’s arrival and suddenly, I felt as though I had made a huge mistake. My son was heartbroken and I began to question whether or not it was right to introduce him to my boyfriend so soon. Is there ever a right time?
My son spent the next few days with his dad, but on Halloween, my boyfriend and I drove down to meet them so we could go trick-or-treating together. I was a little unsure about the whole thing, but it turned out to be an amazing night! At one point, my son was holding hands with both his dad and Mr. Right. I walked behind them, admiring them and thinking about how far we’ve come, together.
There are no words to express how my heart felt at that moment. I am so grateful to my ex for being open to us sharing that experience together. And I’m in awe of Mr. Right, stepping in and helping us create the family that every child deserves. My son is one lucky little boy.
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