Asking for help is probably one of the most difficult things for me to do. I offer help, I’m here for others if and when they need me. Most women and moms are – giving to and taking care of others before thinking of themselves. Yet, at the same time, I was taught to take care of myself, be independent and not (have to) rely on others.
It’s not easy to admit when things are going not-as-planned and when circumstances out of my control have led me to a challenge that I don’t quite know how to face.
Last week, I faced the family court judge as she explained that I would need to prove that I’m looking for work, truly trying to find a job that will support my son and I.
You see, I didn’t ask for help when I truly needed it and now I’m here, struggling to make ends meet, all because the focus of the last year has been to try and make my own business work. I put myself out there, letting people know that I’m available as a Parent/Life Coach but it seems like there are others, besides me, who are not able or willing to ask for help when they need it.
There was a time in my life when things were quite bad, when I struggled just to get out of bed in the morning because I was so numb and truly unable to feel anything. People asked if I was anorexic for a while because I lost so much weight due to stress. I had no appetite and I became robotic, going, going, going, without any emotion and unable to stop or slow down to truly enjoy life.
I look back at that time and those experiences that led up to that point and know that I have much to offer and share with others going through similar situations.
In other words, I’m not going anywhere. I may have to start a 9-5 job that might have nothing to do with helping others, but I’m still going to provide my services to those who request it. I’m still going to share my thoughts and ramblings here on this page, I’m still going to send my newsletter with those who are willing to read it and I’m still going to provide you with things to laugh at (me) when you follow me on Facebook or Twitter.
All I’m asking for, in return, is for you to continue to send encouraging words, to help keep me focused on why I’m here, why we’re all here - to make this world a better place. I believe that with your help, I can begin to do that, one family at a time.
If you know of anyone who is in need of support, please pass along my information. I would love to help.
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