So, I attended a birthday party this last weekend with my son and about 30 other kids. I knew many of them from his school, although some were unfamiliar to me. Of course, since I knew many of the parents, it was them who I talked to mostly but I also enjoy meeting new people. I’m friendly and am always looking to meet new playmates for my son – which requires that they have parents that I can hang out with. (When your kids have friends with parents that you might not have things in common with, it’s usually not such a good thing.)
Anyways, I was trying to mingle and not look like a single mom desperate for a new husband, but I was trying to figure out where all the single dads were. It’s not like I have a gay-dar type detection for these types of fathers. So many married men don’t wear their wedding band (trust me, I look on the left hand of pretty much all parents I meet – men and women).
The stereotype used to be (back when my parents had young kids) that the dads would drink beer, play softball together and not really have much involvement in their kid’s lives. Nowadays, you can’t be too sure what father is on weekend duty (working dad or single father) since they’re all much more involved in their children’s lives than generations before.
I think this is a good thing, for those of you wondering where this is going, but personally, I wish there were some sort of symbol or hand gesture to be able to recognize other single parents. Again, I’m talking about both men and women here, since these are the moms and dads that I can relate to the most.
There’s gotta be a code that we can create so that we can find each other in a crowded room. Don’t you think?
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