I used to see older couples sitting together at a restaurant or in the movie theater or walking next to one another in silence and I would feel sorry for them. They had nothing to talk about, no stories to share, nothing left to say.
Years have passed. I’ve grown more wise, experienced life, had my heart broken and learned to love everything about myself and appreciate those around me. I understand.
I sit with Mr. Right. It’s quiet, but my heart sings! There is a comfortable silence between us. No words need to be said as we share this time together.
Awkward silence typically occurs when we’re uncomfortable, nervous, anxious. Words often get in the way.
I see couples sitting together at a restaurant or in a movie theater or walking down the street, not saying a thing. I smile, knowing that there is sometimes nothing left to say, acknowledging that often times those moments of reflection and quiet and silence are more about the peace that people feel in their hearts, than about anything that’s left unsaid. They’re enjoying one another, drinking in the sights, sounds and smells that will keep the memory of that moment alive for years to come.
My heart sings.
Can you hear it?
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Peace Begins in the Home
Posted by Sugar Jones on August 28, 2009 at 11:56 am
In the movie, Eternal Sunshine, Jim Carrey’s is sitting silently in a restaurant with Kate Winslet and we’re hearing his internal monologue. He’s looking around at all the older couples sitting in silence and worries that he and his girlfriend had become part of the Dining Dead. I think for some people, that level of comfort doesn’t evolve and the understanding that companionship is important hasn’t hit them. But when that comfortable silence is real, then you’ve got something special. It’s not the Dining Dead…
it’s love.
Posted by How it All Began « Happy Healthy Hip Parenting on October 8, 2010 at 12:08 pm
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